Relationships: Regrettably, I’ve come to realize this far too late. I deeply regret not noticing this sooner and wish I had.
1. People come and go
In the past, there were times when I prioritized friends over family. I believed in trusting friends and cherishing friendship, but that was a grave misconception. Only family remains steadfastly loyal, assuming one is fortunate and their family remains intact. Therefore, I desire to behave normally and maintain a moderate distance.
2. Others truly don’t care about you
I used to overthink how people perceived me, but in reality, they didn’t care much. Everyone is self-centered and self-absorbed. It’s natural. So, what you want to do, who you want to be, and what you do is up to you. People don’t really mind. For instance, if you want to post a story on social media but fear gossip from friends, don’t let that bother you if it brings you happiness.
3. Friends are temporary
Perhaps only a fortunate few have lifelong friends, and even then, those friends are likely to have close family ties and long-standing connections. Online friends are a different story. Thus, maintaining a moderate distance from friends is crucial. I regret putting too much effort into friendships in the past.
4. Appearance matters!
The world is cruel. People with good looks are always prioritized. Therefore, taking care of yourself is necessary.
5. Everyone walks different paths in life
You can’t make everyone the same. That’s the point. Each person has their own destiny and timing, so jealousy and envy shouldn’t be entertained. Be patient and humble.
6. Don’t underestimate prayers
Indeed, many of my past prayers have been answered, even prayers I had forgotten making. Truly, Allah is gentle and kind! So, there’s no harm in praying. It’s beneficial.
7. Being wealthy makes life easier
Regular folks must exert maximum effort initially, but wealthy people don’t have to struggle as much. Thus, I aspire to be wealthy tomorrow. At least for the sake of making my children’s future easier.
8. Nonetheless, valuing relationships is still crucial
During school, there were people who had many friends but didn’t value relationships or connections. It’s the opposite. Maintaining relationships is not futile. It’s okay to have few friends. What matters is cherishing and nurturing those relationships. It will prove beneficial in the future. Therefore, quality > quantity. Having high-quality friends is best, and it’s important to cherish those relationships. The method is simple. Even if you’re far apart, a simple greeting or comment on a story through chat suffices. If you’re nearby, saying hello, making time to meet, and such are easy and casual things to do.